By Phoenix Calida
But Rachel is helping the black community.
How? Continue reading “How is Rachel Dolezal Helping the Black Community?”
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Why is Violence Not the Answer?
By Phoenix Calida
I will never understand how “violence isn’t the answer” in a country where-
Some of our biggest grossing and most critically acclaimed films and tv shows are about organized crime syndicates; Continue reading “Why is Violence Not the Answer?”
The Goal is Dead Black Bodies
By Phoenix Calida
When we do better than them, they kill us- black wall street
When we do the same things as they do, they kill us- John Crawford, Emmet Till
When they assume we’re worse than them cause we’re thugs, they kill us- Michael Brown, Eric Garner Continue reading “The Goal is Dead Black Bodies”
No words for shaming
By Phoenix Calida
Let’s discuss opposites.
Slut. a word that is applied to women to degrade them. It can be based actual sexuality that defies puritanical patriarchy, assumed promiscuity, rumors, or clothing choices. Women have been shamed, ostracized, and kicked out of social circles for being slut shamed.
What is the male equivalent of this term? Continue reading “No words for shaming”
Dehumanization Starts By Not Valuing Our Voices
By Phoenix Calida
When a group higher up the social ladder tells a another group what is appropriate to complain about, there’s a something disturbing happening. Continue reading “Dehumanization Starts By Not Valuing Our Voices”
Male Centric Society So Obvious, It’s Painful
By Phoenix Calida
I’m baffled why people think saying we live in a male centric society is “silly” or “far fetched”.
Everything in our society was created to cater to men, specifically white, upper class, able-bodied, cis, hetero men. Continue reading “Male Centric Society So Obvious, It’s Painful”
Fifty Shades and Adult Worthy Erotica
By Phoenix Calida
Aside from the blatant abuse and rape in the 50 Shades story, I can’t help but think there’s so many other indicators of how we view women and sex.
I think what bugs me is the utter infantilization of women’s agency and sexuality that 50 Shades represents. Women aren’t entitled to fuck like adults, women are not entitled to consent, or entitled to being the focus of a sexual encounter. Enjoyment is negotiable, and in the end, you’re supposed to be grateful for a lackluster sexual encounter (or possible rape).
Can we just accept that women like sex, some women like bdsm, and that’s ok?
Women are capable of informed consent and adult worthy sexual encounters and adult worthy erotica. Actual well written, sexy, healthy relationship erotica. Women are capable of fucking like adults, can we perhaps start producing porn and erotica that reflects this agency??
Oppression Doesn’t Go Both Ways
By Phoenix Calida
The problem with reverse -isms (racism, sexism, etc) is that they imply everyone is starting from an equal place. Of course, members of marginalized groups can be bigoted or prejudiced. But marginalized groups don’t have the same structural ability to behave oppressively. Continue reading “Oppression Doesn’t Go Both Ways”
Words Add to the Burden of Oppression
By Phoenix Calida
Becoming increasingly uncomfortable with the framing of these “free speech” arguments. Free speech doesn’t include hate speech, and it doesn’t mean no consequences for words we choose to use. Continue reading “Words Add to the Burden of Oppression”
Lessons I’ve Learned this Year
By Phoenix Calida
1. Robin Williams passing is a tragedy and we should do something about mental illness… unless we’re talking about Amanda Bynes, because mocking her for being “crazy” is hilarious. Continue reading “Lessons I’ve Learned this Year”
Voting Isn’t a Magic Bullet: But Let’s Be Real, We Are In A War
By Phoenix Calida
Regarding voting- over the last few days I’ve been told I’m everything from “fucking stupid” to ignorant, to uniformed because I vote.
I’m none of those things, and people need to stop assuming what I know. Continue reading “Voting Isn’t a Magic Bullet: But Let’s Be Real, We Are In A War”