By Alex S. Morgan We usually think of dissociation as a coping skill or adaptive behavior associated with trauma, anxiety, and/or sometimes distress related to gender dysphoria, but in reality many people are partially mentally or emotionally checked out, or not fully present in their bodies, during sexual and intimate activities.
By Chelsea Whitlow Shay Clothing has long been used to regulate culture and express ones social standing. Whether it’s women wearing corset dresses, a staple in women’s fashion from the 16th -18th centuries, or businessmen wearing two button verse three button suits to the office, clothing is often used as a visual marker of belonging or as a sign…
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By Phoenix Calida Let’s discuss opposites. Slut. a word that is applied to women to degrade them. It can be based actual sexuality that defies puritanical patriarchy, assumed promiscuity, rumors, or clothing choices. Women have been shamed, ostracized, and kicked out of social circles for being slut shamed. What is the male equivalent of this term?
By Phoenix Calida When a group higher up the social ladder tells a another group what is appropriate to complain about, there’s a something disturbing happening.
By Chelsea Whitlow Shay Baby Shower. Two words that often result in sighs of annoyance and disgruntled acceptance of invitations for all but the most baby and pregnancy loving people out there. And by “people,” I mean women, because for men when these words are uttered they all but shut down and tune out the conversation.
By Phoenix Calida I’m baffled why people think saying we live in a male centric society is “silly” or “far fetched”. Everything in our society was created to cater to men, specifically white, upper class, able-bodied, cis, hetero men.
By Phoenix Callida The goal is to make you feel worthless. The goal is to make you shut up. The goal is to make you feel hopeless. But it’s a lie. All of it.
By Alex S. Morgan Happy National Coming Out Day! I’m going to update my list of disclosures a little today. See if you notice anything new.
By Phoenix Calida Privilege is a thing you have. You get it without asking for it or deserving it. You get privilege because you fall into categories that are deemed desirable by society. You get privilege for most closely resembling the people who run our society. In America, this means the more you resemble white, wealthy, Christian, cis, hetero,…
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By Chris Crass “If anyone says ‘boys can’t wear dresses’, tell them that everyone can wear dresses and lots of boys in your family wear dresses,” I explained. My son, River, picked out one of his dresses to wear to pre-school today.
By Alex S. Morgan Friendly reminder: gender presentation and identity are not the same thing. Too often we either just guess, or only ask someone’s pronouns if they’re visibly androgynous or gender-non-conforming. (I can count on one hand the number of people who asked me mine before I cut my hair, though I was out as genderqueer for years.)